In Loving Memory...



May 6, 2012

Kindra asked me one day, as we were looking at some pictures I had taken of some little girls with umbrellas, “why are those girls holding umbrellas? Was it raining?” I told her, “no, it wasn’t raining, but I thought it would look pretty for the pictures.” She smiles and says to me, “I want to take pictures with your umbrella…but when it rains.”

With that in mind, I went out the next day, shopping for rain boots and a rain coat to surprise her with…because this spring, I was going to wait for a day when it rained and wasn’t too cold outside, to take her out, and take some pictures of her splashing in the puddles…

Last Sunday night, after hearing what seemed like bad news- but also what seemed like a misunderstanding…just trying to make sense of it all- I went to bed thinking, “this is all a dream… I will wake up and it will all be a dream. We still had our rain pictures to do.”

On Monday morning, I woke up to the sound of rain and to the sad and heartbreaking news - what I had heard from the night before, had not been a dream after all…

　
As we sit here today, we are not only mourning the passing of our special little girl, but we are also here to celebrate and honor her and to remember her life.

Image Courtesy of SKAI Photography

Kindra Mylia Phengsavanh was born on the 23^rd of October, 2006. Kindra was quiet and shy, until she got to know you, then she would talk nonstop asking you questions and filling your mind with facts and everything she learned and everything she knew. For such a young girl, she knew it all. Why the sky was blue- because the blue birds fly in the sky…why the grass was green- because it makes the world colorful. If she didn’t get an answer for something, she already had an answer for you. Kindra was very observant and she learned quickly. You could never get anything by her without her catching you and then correcting you.

She had so much ambition, more than you would expect a 5 year old to have. She shared her excitement about starting kindergarten this coming year…and then the year after, she would be in first grade, and then from first grade- straight to college. While most little girls her age want to be princesses, Kindra wanted to be a pharmacist. Her dream was to make medicine to help those who were sick. Indeed, she was always thinking of helping others.

Kindra had a plan and a big goal to help those who were less fortunate than she was. She worked hard with the help of her mother and father collecting tons and tons of toothbrushes, toothpaste, and other necessities to donate to different orphanages and to those who needed them most. She shared with me about the trip her family had planned for Laos this year and was excited to go and donate items and services to all the children there. For being so young, she knew what she wanted to do and was very determined to convince her parents that they had to do whatever possible to make “it” happen.

She didn’t hesitate to help her mom in the kitchen, help her dad with the grocery shopping, help her uncle do yard work, help with feeding and changing her baby cousin, or help her brother and sisters do their homework and chores around the house…She always wanted to help and do something for you whether you wanted or needed it or not. She had this thing where she wanted to give you things- things she had, thing she would find… her mom’s things. She just loved to give.

Though she had the ambition of a grown-up, she was your sweet, smiley little girl, who giggled as she sat there listening to you talk or when you would ask her questions. She loved playing games and make believe. She loved shopping and dressing up. She was always giving you hugs and kisses and telling you her latest joke- that she made up, which never made any sense- but oh boy, were they hilarious to her and you would laugh with her because her giggles were that contagious.

She was always a happy girl who you could just sit there and have long conversations with.

When I would visit Kindra at her home, it would be time for me to go home…she would ask me, “why are you going already?” And I would reply to her, “because I have things to do. But I will see you later…”
It is my turn now to ask her, “why are you going, already?”… and I know her reply to me would be the same…

Kindra’s time with us here on earth was short but look at the endless memories she has left with us: her smiles, her laughs, her mission and dreams… she will always be remembered.

Rain will now remind me of our precious Kindra… however, I will not be sadden by this, but I will smile because we shared so many fun times together that I will always remember and cherish.

Though we are here to say our last good-byes, as we lay her down to rest… remember in our hearts, we will never say good bye.

May you spread your wings and fly our precious angel… We love you.

KINDRA MYLIA PHENGSAVANH

October 23, 2006 - April 29, 2012 

Image Courtesy of SKAI Photography

Such a young sweet soul that God had sent to us for such a short time.  We are happy to have had her in our lives.  Not a day will go by that we won't miss your pretty face, but we know that you are now in a much safer place and a place you can now call home. 

Loved and Survived by:

Parents: My and Khounma Phengsavanh

Siblings: Kiana, Brandon, and Natalie

Grandparents: Souphaphone and Samphanh Ounesivixay

Uncle and Aunts: Phanthou and Khampouth Phonesavnh, Pani Phengsavanh, Tong Homehouane, Ovay and Chanh Phengsavanh, Phone and Siphaiphone Vorabouth, Vixay Phengsavanh, Othay Phengsavanh, Oubonrattana Ounesivixay and Tommy Cam, Henry and Sophea Ounesivixay

And by numerous family and close friends

Now in Heaven with her Grandparents, Vahndy and Chanh Phengsavanh